Midsommar Explained: The Cult Is Correct
Dani didn't get rescued. She got the family her boyfriend refused to be.
The discourse around Midsommar splits along a clear line. Some viewers see it as a horror film about a young woman being absorbed into a cult and forced into something monstrous. Others see it as a breakup revenge fantasy with horror set dressing. Both readings are partial. The film is doing something more uncomfortable than either. It is asking whether the cult, on its own terms, is offering Dani something none of the modern characters around her are capable of offering. The answer the film gives is yes.
Dani enters the film already destroyed. Her sister has murdered their parents and herself. She has been left with Christian, a boyfriend who was already planning to break up with her and now cannot because grieving people are difficult to leave. The film's opening twenty minutes are one of the most precise depictions of unsupported grief in recent cinema. Dani cries alone in a bathroom. She apologizes for crying. She apologizes for being too much. She gets told she is too much. She apologizes again.
Christian and his friends invite her to Sweden as a polite gesture. They wish she would not come. They are anthropology graduate students going to research a midsummer festival at Pelle's home commune. Pelle is the only one who treats Dani as a person. He brings her a small birthday cake and remembers her birthday. He listens to her cry. He does not try to fix it. He notices her. The other men in the film are unable to notice her. Pelle's care will turn out to be selection. He is bringing her home.
The Hårga is a structured agrarian community on isolated land. They eat together. They sleep in one long building. They share grief, joy, food, sex, and ritual in public. They do not pretend that pain is private. When the elders walk off the cliff in the attestupa, the community below screams with them. When a woman has sex in the ritual hut, the women of the village kneel around her bed and breathe with her in chorus. There is no private grief and no private pleasure. Everything is collective.
Aster films the rituals with a documentary patience that refuses to let the audience dismiss them as theatrics. The community has rules. The rules are violent. The rules are also fully present and fully witnessed. When the attestupa goes wrong and the second elder survives the first jump with broken legs, the community comes to him with a mallet and finishes him together. They do not hide the violence. They do not euthanize him alone in a back room with paperwork. They do it in front of everyone, including the visitors, and they hold each other while they do it.
This is the film's actual argument. The Hårga is not concealing its violence. The modern world is concealing its violence. Christian is going to abandon Dani. He has already decided to. He is just looking for a clean exit. The exit, in his world, is not a ritual. It is a slow letting-go that pretends to be politeness. The Hårga has rituals because rituals make events visible and shared. The modern characters have politeness because politeness makes events invisible and private.
When the festival progresses, Dani is integrated into the community in ways that are precise and serious. She is given honor. She is dressed for the May Queen competition. She wins. She is crowned with flowers. She is carried on a chair while the community cheers her name. For the first time in months, possibly years, she is at the center of a circle of attention that is celebrating her existence rather than tolerating it.
Meanwhile Christian has been drugged and is being used in a fertility ritual with a younger Hårga woman. Dani sees this through a keyhole. She collapses. Around her, women collapse with her. They breathe with her. They wail with her. They mirror her grief back to her with their own bodies. This is the scene in which Dani is held by other women in a way that Christian has never held her. The performance is also a teaching. Grief, mirrored, is bearable. Grief, alone, killed her sister.
The final ritual requires nine sacrifices. The May Queen chooses the ninth. The Hårga has prepared an outsider — Christian — and offered Dani the choice between him and a community member. Dani chooses Christian. The choice is the climax of the film. It is also, from inside the logic the film has established, the morally clarified choice. She has chosen the family that sees her over the partner who does not. She has chosen the community that demands her grief be witnessed over the man who demanded it be hidden.
The smile at the end is not relief. It is recognition. She has been seen. She has been chosen. She is the May Queen. She is at the center. The thing that has been missing her entire adult life — being noticed without having to perform smallness — has been given to her by people who will also burn her boyfriend alive in a bear costume. The two facts are inseparable. The community that holds her is the community that holds him. She is not naive about this. She has decided.
Aster has said that Midsommar is a breakup film. This is true and incomplete. It is a film about what kind of relationship structures are equipped to hold grief and what kind are not. The modern dyad — two people, alone, supposed to be everything to each other — is the structure being criticized. The communal structure of the Hårga is the structure being held up as functional, even at the cost of its monstrous rituals. The film is not endorsing the Hårga. It is saying the Hårga sees something the modern world has forgotten: grief is not a problem to be solved alone in a bathroom. It is a shared weather.
The horror of the film is not the violence. The horror is recognizing that Dani had to travel to a remote Swedish commune in order to be held during a crying fit. The horror is that the people who set her on fire in a yellow building also remembered her birthday. The horror is what was missing in the world she came from.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: What is Midsommar really about? A: A woman whose grief is mishandled by the modern relationships around her finds herself absorbed into a community that handles grief with structured ritual. The film argues that the cult is correct on at least one point. Grief needs to be witnessed.
Q: Why does Dani smile at the end of Midsommar? A: Because she has been held, seen, and chosen for the first time. The smile is recognition, not derangement. The cost of this recognition is monstrous, and she has accepted it.
Q: Is Midsommar a breakup movie? A: Ari Aster has said yes. The breakup with Christian is the spine of the film. The Hårga is the alternative structure that makes the breakup possible by giving Dani somewhere to go.
Q: What is the attestupa in Midsommar? A: A ritual cliff suicide performed by elders who have reached the end of their life cycle in the Hårga's seventy-two-year structure. The community is present for the deaths and mirrors the grief with their own bodies.
Q: Why does Dani choose Christian as the ninth sacrifice? A: She is the May Queen and the choice is hers. She has been betrayed by Christian, supported by the Hårga, and asked to commit to which family is hers. She chooses the family she now belongs to.
Q: What does the Hårga represent in Midsommar? A: A structured community where every emotional event is publicly witnessed and ritually held. The film treats this as both monstrous and corrective. The horror is that this is what is missing from the protagonist's world.
Q: Why is the entire film shot in daylight? A: To remove the genre crutch of darkness as a stand-in for evil. Everything in Midsommar happens in the open. The film is arguing that the modern characters cannot see what is in front of them even when nothing is hidden.
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