Only God Forgives
film · 2013 · 4 min read

Only God Forgives

Only God Forgives Is a Tarot Card Where the Son Must Cut Off His Own Hands to Face the Mother

Directed by Nicolas Winding Refn

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What does Only God Forgives really mean?

Refn made a film with almost no dialogue and drenched it in red because he was not telling a crime story. He was staging a judgment.

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Julian walks corridors that glow like the inside of an organ. He clenches and opens his hands throughout the film, staring at them, imagining them wrapped around a woman or shoved down a throat. The plot says he must avenge his brother, a rapist and child-killer, on the orders of his mother Crystal. But the film is not about the revenge. It is about whether Julian can refuse it. Chang, the retired police lieutenant who dispenses violence with a sword and then sings karaoke, is not a character. He is the principle of judgment walking on two legs. Every act in this film is arraigned before him. Julian's real antagonist is not Chang and not the mother. It is his own hands, the instruments of the crime he keeps almost committing, the appendages he finally offers up.

Kabbalistic Reading: Chang Is Din, the Sword of Severity, and Nobody Is Exempt

The Tree of Life holds two pillars in tension: Chesed, mercy and expansion, and Gevurah, severity and restriction, the arm that cuts away what cannot continue. Gevurah is often called Din, judgment. Its emblem is the sword. Chang materializes a sword from nowhere, again and again, and uses it to sever limbs with the impersonal precision of a natural law. He does not hate the men he mutilates. He processes them. When he blinds the man who let his own daughter be used, the punishment fits with a horrible geometry: the eyes that watched are removed.

Crystal is the counterfeit of the other pillar. She calls it love, but her mercy toward her sons is pure appetite, a mother who compares her dead son's genitals to her living son's at a dinner table. She is Chesed collapsed into devouring. The film's cosmology is a Tree gone wrong, all severity on one side and all smothering hunger on the other, with no middle pillar to reconcile them. Julian stands where balance should be and finds he cannot generate it. In this cosmos mercy is a lie the mother tells and judgment is the only thing that keeps its word.

Initiatory Reading: The Hands Offered So the Son Can Finally Be Born

Every real initiation demands a death of the old self, and the old self resists at the threshold. Julian's arc is an initiation he keeps failing. His hands are the recurring image because hands are agency, the capacity to grasp and to strike, the very thing his mother has weaponized his whole life. He nearly strangles a woman. He watches his hands as though they belong to someone he is afraid of. This is a man who has never once acted from himself, only ever as his mother's instrument.

The turn comes at the end. Julian finds Crystal's corpse and opens her belly with his hand, pushing inside the body that made him, an image of unbirthing and of return. Then, in the final shot, he kneels before Chang and extends his arms, and the sword falls. He gives up the hands. The instrument of the mother's will is surrendered to the principle of judgment, and only then, disarmed and unmade, is Julian free of her. He had to lose the means of the crime to stop being the criminal she raised.

Questions this film answers

What is the deeper meaning of Only God Forgives?

Julian walks corridors that glow like the inside of an organ. He clenches and opens his hands throughout the film, staring at them, imagining them wrapped around a woman or shoved down a throat. The plot says he must avenge his brother, a rapist and child-killer, on the orders of his mother Crystal. But the film is not about the revenge. It is about whether Julian can refuse it. Chang, the retired police lieutenant who dispenses violence with a sword and then sings karaoke, is not a character. He is the principle of judgment walking on two legs. Every act in this film is arraigned before him. Julian's real antagonist is not Chang and not the mother. It is his own hands, the instruments of the crime he keeps almost committing, the appendages he finally offers up.

What is the hidden symbolism in Only God Forgives?

The Tree of Life holds two pillars in tension: Chesed, mercy and expansion, and Gevurah, severity and restriction, the arm that cuts away what cannot continue. Gevurah is often called Din, judgment. Its emblem is the sword. Chang materializes a sword from nowhere, again and again, and uses it to sever limbs with the impersonal precision of a natural law. He does not hate the men he mutilates. He processes them. When he blinds the man who let his own daughter be used, the punishment fits with a horrible geometry: the eyes that watched are removed.

What esoteric traditions appear in Only God Forgives?

Only God Forgives draws from Kabbalah, Initiation traditions. Refn made a film with almost no dialogue and drenched it in red because he was not telling a crime story. He was staging a judgment.

Is Only God Forgives worth watching for spiritual seekers?

Only God Forgives (2013) directed by Nicolas Winding Refn is essential viewing for those interested in Kabbalah, Initiation. Only God Forgives Is a Tarot Card Where the Son Must Cut Off His Own Hands to Face the Mother. It rewards multiple viewings and contemplation.

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Rewatch With New Eyes

Now that you've seen the architecture, experience it again. The same film becomes a different film when you know what to watch for.

This time, watch for:

  • Notice the vessels: what contains, what shatters, what repairs
  • Mark the threshold: the old self dies, the ordeal transforms, the new self returns

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